Does any GUY here agree with me?

[CynanMachae]

I work with a girl who swears like a drunken sailor. I just came to the conclusion that NOTHING, except MAYBE a girl who smokes, turns me off more than a girl who curses.

I'm not the kind of guy who preaches at people or whatever, but I think that even if I wasn't a Christian, I would still find this stupid. Anybody agree? I wanna just tell her that it's NOT cute, it's NOT attractive, OR very ladylike at all.

[dgan]

Although my non-politically correct gene often encourages me to hold women to a higher standard in regards to etiquette, I must admit that I don't find men who swear like sailors to be attractive either. Basically, people who talk like that incessantly, regardless of gender, just strike me as either lazy or in need of attention.

[Gwalchmai]

I've met enough interesting friends that I'm kind of numb to the swearing. So that doesn't really bother me. What bothers me is the intelligance of some people is just... astounding. This one girl that I work with asked me "which state on the back of the quarter has the eagle?" and then has to ask "do they do that with any other coins?" Things like that just blow my mind. And are SO unattractive to me.

[DanTheMan]

I'd agree that swearing is very unattractive. Smoking is unattractive. Making bodily noises is unattractive. Body odor is unattractive.

Self-respect is attractive. Respect for others is attractive. Intelligence is attractive. Self-confidence is attractive. A good vocabulary is attractive.

[Steltek]

I agree -- it's completely repulsive when a girl can't stop swearing.

[dreamer]

I have to say that anyone who uses swearing as a form of speech is either woefully deficient in the vocabulary and intelligence department or they are just extremely lazy. Not nice in any sense or from any gender. Most of the time, it is just a nasty habit that can be changed.

In college, I had one professor that used swearing as natural speech in the classroom. I did ask him if that was necessary as I was sure with his education he had other words at his command to express himself and he apologized and tried to curb his swearing after that. Sometimes all you need to do is bring their attention to it.

My biggest annoyance is that people now replace wit with swearing as if it is funny. Can you name one comedian who doesn't have the foulest mouth ever? I almost always appreciated Bill Cosby as a comedian because swearing was not a replacement for wit for him.

[Lady Bookwyrm]

*sheepish*

Um, I'll admit to being one of the girls who swears a lot. But trust me, I come up with some very original curses. I tend to make up words a lot, too. I do have an extensive vocabulary, and I can swear in several languages. Can I express myself in another way? Absolutely. Do I? When it suits me...*shrugs*

I don't cuss in front of children or in formal settings, but if someone gets me angry or I just feel like letting one fly...it comes out. I don't do it to be "cute," "funny," or "attractive." I do it to be me and to say what I feel.

If you don't like it, let me know, and I'll buy you some earplugs.

[dgan]

I think there is definately more latitude given for outbursts than for "conversational" swearing. You're ok in my book, booky.

[dreamer]

In my own personal opinion, there are so many words in any language that the use of foul language is entirely unnecessary. It is merely a habit that is condoned by others. If I need to "outburst", there is no reason that what comes out of my mouth should be something unedifying to anyone in the vicinity. My personal word is "Stink!", which the situation usually does. But it is something I never need apologize for or change because there are children in the area. I am a lady and I expect people to treat me and the air about me as such.

[karenee]

Swearing is so hard to listen to. I picked up on it a bit from a family-member until I clued in that swearing actually does affect my attitude.

When I stop the words until I come up with something clean...and even healing, it usually adjusts me mentally to the point where I see where I'm overreacting (at times) or at least less angry or frustrated. Now I no longer feel the need to swear... just like I used to.

[CynanMachae]

dgan said:

I think there is definately more latitude given for outbursts than for "conversational" swearing. You're ok in my book, booky.

Exactly. She doesn't swear in outbursts, but in just every random sentance she says. It's annoying.

[Hinata]

[sarcasm]booky swears? NO![/sacrasm]

Sorry. . .tired,. . . in any case, I agree. . .swearing is horrific. . .now if I could just weed out the last few words that randomly pop up in vocabulary life would be better. . .I'm a lot better now than I was in the eighth grade, so there's room for improvement

[Daae]

Twyrch, you make me happy. I've been trying to come up with creative things to say instead of swearing. "Seamonkies" was the word for awhile, and thanks to my dad who watches the new Battlestar Galactica, "frac" shows up sometimes. But usually I just say things like "razzle-frazzin' fritter fratter nergh".

[CynanMachae]

You say "Nergh"? Oh man, Daae, please restrain yourself. Twyrch should delete your post.

[twyrch]

daae said:

Twyrch, you make me happy. I've been trying to come up with creative things to say instead of swearing. "Seamonkies" was the word for awhile, and thanks to my dad who watches the new Battlestar Galactica, "frac" shows up sometimes. But usually I just say things like "razzle-frazzin' fritter fratter nergh".

Heh... I guess you saw my post before I deleted it. I was afraid it might offend someone or be taken the wrong way.