Teaching kids about respect

[ceridwen]

I've been lax in teaching my children about respect, so I'm hoping you can all help give me some insights. To me, the big question is: is respect something that every human being inherently deserves, or is it something that must be earned? Biblical support is definitely welcomed.

[Gwalchmai]

For me, respect is something that has to be earned. I mean, it seems completely illogical that someone can demand respect regaurdless of what they may have done or believe. Respect is a gift that we give to each other and not tribute to be taken at all times.

However it is only right that in light of that fact, that everyone be given a chance to earn that respect. Blackballing someone because of a bad first impression is wrong and reflects badly on yourself more often than not.

Incidentily, having good manners is really helpful here. Simply by being polite, it makes the other person feel like they are being respected which in turn gives you time to properly work out your own opinion of the person. So keep your elbows off the table and keep your eyes and ears open.

[Child of Immanuel]

Here we might distinguish between two types of respect. I believe everyone deserves the respect of courtesy. Not everyone deserves the respect of being asked for advice, being trusted with my interior feelings or my safety.

[karenee]

Well, the Matthew 7 and 1 Corinthians 13 along with so many other verses teach us how to deal with those around us. What is respect except a way to show love?

We are to treat even enemies with kindness, compassion and forgiveness. This is respect. We honor, not their own actions, but the fact that God created them and wants to rescue them from their sinfulness or separation from Him.

We are also to be wise and discerning. Responding quietly to provocation and calling someone "sir" is one thing,... stepping into danger and going off with strangers as if they were trustworthy is another. We reserve trust for those who earn it.

Hopefully this helps.

Romans 13:7 Giving respect to those who have positional authority.

1 Timothy 6:1, Ephesians 6:5 Giving respect to those who have some control over your life and choices. These are the people you are unwillingly subject to, I should think. Though we do not have actual slavery these days.

1 Thessalonians 5:12 and 1 Peter 2:17 Respect for other believers.

1 Peter 3:15 Respect for those who challenge our beliefs.

[ceridwen]

Hey all,

Thanks for your replies. Other people have been reminding me of similar things: practice the Golden Rule, respect as something that must come from your own heart rather than a "label" that someone else deserves or doesn't deserve, teach what you believe, etc. These are all things I've heard over and over, and know in my head, but apparently need to be reminded of frequently.