Yay, nay, or wait?

[Dred]

I'll be praying for you that God will let you know when the right time is and that whatever the result, it will be an easy and smooth transition for you.

[Hinata]

Thanks guys, that means a lot to me

[laurelin]

I wish I could help, but I have no experience with such things. Good luck.

[dgan]

Let me tell you a story, Hinata.

There was this guy who looked like me, acted like me,....ok, it WAS me. Anyway, I did a similar thing for this girl who I had really begun having feelings for. We were more friends than a possible item, but she had been giving some mixed signals and I felt like maybe this would be the thing that would put the relationship in motion - or at least answer some questions.

So...I call her one evening, tell her I wanted to talk. That must have sounded weird. I mean, we were friends, but not the "let's hang out, just the two of us after dark" kind of friends. But, she didn't freak out or anything, so I gave her the thing I had written/compiled for her. My memory blurs a bit at that point because I became so nervous, but basically that was it. I left.

Haven't talked to her since.

That same week, a different girl I had known a long time basically told me she wanted to date. She turned out to be the girl of my dreams, she's a 1000 times better than the girl I thought I liked, and she is now my wife and has to suffer my cheesy poems all the time.

The moral of the story is that you can't predict love/relationships. Don't fear what may happen, and don't cry too long over what does. More than likely, a higher power has something in store and you can't mess that plan up. At least, as long as you follow the straight and narrow. *throws fatherly glare towards Hinata*

[Hinata]

now, now. . .no fatherly glares my way. . .my dad takes care of that one enough.

I'm waiting on the matter. . . the timing isn't right and my roommate would kill me if I gave it to him before we started "dating". . .but then she says we already act like we're dating. . .go figure.

[dinadan]

My experience tells me, people take poetry way too seriously. I mean, for you, yes, it's a powerful expression of your feelings, and probably communicates what you're thinking/feeling better than you could if you were simply saying it, flat out. But these days, you hand someone a poem you've written for them, and they either go coo-coo for cocoa puff, or else they flip out and (as per dgan's story) don't talk to you again.

I've had both happen at different points, and each end has been disasterous.

I'm not telling you not to give it to the guy, but I'm not telling you that you should either. So, basically, this is worthless for advice, because I'm essentially saying, "not no, but not yes."

Oh well, don't listen to me. You've read my stuff. I never get the girl.

[Hinata]

Perhaps I just threw caution to the wind this evening. . .I dropped off a copy of the poem to his house. Anonymously (I'm not completely stupid). . .Now we wait to see what happens.

[Dred]

I hope you get a good reaction. Do you think he'll know it was you?

[cree8ivone]

What are you going to say when he asks you if you wrote the poem, Hinata? You've already shown him that you write poetry. He will figure out that it is you pretty quickly.

[Hinata]

I don't know if he'll figure out it was me or not. . .but if he ask, I'll say, "Yes, I wrote it and I wanted you to have a copy of it since you inspired it."

[DanTheMan]

That's brave, Hinata. Good for you!

[cree8ivone]

That is brave. Good for you.

[Hinata]

I can't very well lie and say "No I didn't write that poem" If he figures out that it's me, I'll be upfront and honest with him about it. ..but not until then!

[Hinata]

Update: Nothing happened. . .he didn't ask, he didn't say a word. *Shrugs* Life marches on, right

[DanTheMan]

He's confused.